Lack of Self Confidence
Is low self-confidence an issue for you? Low self-confidence and low self-esteem are remarkably common as both social and work related pressures increase, but Hypnotherapy can help with self confidence, together with NLP and EFT.
Confidence is not just about the feeling, it’s also about the signals, the messages we send out to those around us.
Together, we can change the message to more truly recognise your qualities and abilities as an unique, capable and successful human being. Hypnotherapy, NLP and EFT are a good starting point and Coaching can help you move forward.
If low self-confidence is an issue for you as it is for a great many people, give me a call for an informal initial consultation to see how I can help.
Where Does Self-Confidence Come From?
First, it is NOT something you are born with. Self confidence is in fact a learned skill resulting from a combination of skills and qualities. It develops with practise.
Everyone can learn these required skills and with practise, become more confident. The more confident you begin to feel, the more your confidence will grow.
Sadly, low self-confidence is also learned and we have some good teachers. It is a sad fact that by the age of 5 the average child has heard the word “No” 40,000 times but “Yes” only 5,000 times. When children get to school how many are:
- Constantly told to improve or do better
- Ridiculed or made an example of in class
- Called names because they’re different, quiet or studious
- Excluded by others because they’re not good at netball or football
Anxious and caring parents tell children to “Be careful”, “Don’t touch this”, or “don’t do that.” Seldom do they tell them how to evaluate and assess risk and act accordingly. Seldom are they encouraged to do something slightly risky so that they learn how to encounter and deal with these things in a safer learning environment. Richard Branson’s mother was however, a notable exception and look where he is now!
Consider another aspect. As children we were constantly told not to talk to strangers, yet as adolescents and adults we have to go out into the world of strangers to make new friends, mix with new work colleagues, or network for business contacts and increased business turnover.
So remember, people are not born with or without self confidence – it is learned.
The next step is important!
Pick up the phone and call me – I won’t laugh at you or think you are silly, I’ll treat you with the respect and seriousness you deserve. And if you’re too shy to do that, fill in the contact form below or on my contact page, tell me the best time and I’ll call you.
I’d really like to help you and I’ll let you into a secret. When a young boy, I was so shy I used to get my brother to ask the other boys in the street if I could play with them! Now they can’t shut me up, so get in touch.
* It is important to note however, that results may vary from person to person.
There is a serious side to shyness and poor self confidence. Apart from social introversion and loneliness where people stop caring for themselves, there is a potentially serious health risk. Scottish Health News in July 2007 cited a then recent Swedish study that found that having an extensive social network may protect people against dementia and that people with a poor or limited social network had a 60% increase in the risk of dementia. It further suggested the following activities to stay involved with the world around you and make sure that you do something sociable every day:
- Keep in regular touch with friends and family
- Go out with friends, family or colleagues
- Get involved in your community
- Volunteer for something that interests you
- Join a club
Join a walking group or a dance class – it will also increase your physical activity
“For things to change, you have to change; for things to get better, you have to be better.”
– Jim Rohn